The changes in the picture never quite touch on what transforms on the inside, that is usually a much longer process. It took me a year to lose 128lbs from 24 to 25, I am just writing this at 43 though its been there for years.
Ok, so the title is a little misleading. There are several keys, but one that dictates all the rest. Let me tell you what it’s NOT about first:
1. It’s NOT about a specific diet to lose weight. I see people who are significantly overweight that search and then try fad diets after fad diet. All of them will help you lose weight if you follow them. Your diet will likely change throughout your life.
2. It’s NOT about your specific workout. Whether you do CrossFit or run 5 miles a day. Both will help keep you fit and help create a calorie deficit. Over a lifetime the level and type of activity as well as the amount of time that you have to dedicate to it will change.
So what is the KEY to keeping the weight off for good?
Here’s what will determine whether or not you WILL keep it off…
1. Being open to change. If you start a weight loss program of any kind and hate that you will need to change your way of life than it is likely not to last.
2. Stepping outside your comfort zone. Either signing up for to a gym and walking in for the first time wearing size 22 sweat pants while someone on the stair climber snickers, or if it’s trying a new food because it will help you with your goal.
3. Being able to turn negative comments into fuel and motivation. People say things that are unnecessary and just plain rude it will either make you crumble or it will set a fire inside you like nothing else.
4. The ability to bounce back after a setback. They will happen, will you allow it to be a reason to quit or will you act as if a setback is really asking you “How bad do you really want it?”
5. Get rid of the word can’t. Focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t do. Replace every “can’t” with “I haven’t done that yet.” Isn’t that what we tell our children?
6. The willingness to learn. Being new to something and going through the hard part of learning is essential. Learn about nutrition and the body and how it works…how it’s supposed to work.
7. Making yourself a priority. Taking an hour of the day to workout is not selfish. Over scheduling yourself with busy things is the new excuse.
8. Learn to inspire yourself. For the long haul there will only be you on a consistent basis, start living up to your own expectations.
9. Do it even though you don’t feel like it. I approached my weight loss like a job in some respect, I wouldn’t just call of work because “I didn’t feel like it” so I don’t blow off a workout. My paycheck is a sense of accomplishment… and smaller jeans.
10. Feed your soul, not your thighs. Do something that helps you, draw, write, read, paint, go for a drive, plant a garden, connect with someone etc. creativity is devalued yet it feeds a part of us that no food can. This is often the large piece that’s missing in our lives that we try to fill in other ways.
Your attitude will be the determining factor on you successfully maintaining your weight loss. The fitness industry will tell you its eat less, move more. Yes, that will get you to lose the weight, but because you are not a robot the other parts are essential for the longterm success.
Ok, your turn. What part do you struggle with? Which one have you made part of your life?
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Hi, welcome to Forever Fitting In. My name is Melissa. I have maintained a weight loss of over 100 lbs. for 18 years by making small but consistent changes to my lifestyle. My changes lead me to compete in natural bodybuilding which further developed my passion for fitness and to become a certified personal trainer, Pilates and Spinning Instructor, TRX and few others. To better serve clients I studied nutrition and weight management. However, I am at my best when I can create, whether it is a new exercise or making quick healthy meals and snacks. I have used proven strategies, planning and tips to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Now married with two young children, I created this blog to share my knowledge and experience and to hopefully inspire others into action!
The Other Half Of Me:
Up until now I have been focused on the health and fitness side of me and for a really long time that was what I was about. My time was spent studying, learning, training, teaching and developing myself to someone who could not only forever fit into a healthy lifestyle for myself, but also pass it along that to other people. This is the other side, the side that is always there, and not a day goes by that I am not in shock that I am somebody’s mom. No doubt I am in over my head.
At 33 I had my first child Sydney; she was a much wanted surprise, because I was unsure if I could have children. Needless to say my life has never been the same.
Sydney is 9 years old and a bright and sweet girl. She is also a preteen, and does it very well–meaning all the not-so-fun-stuff that comes with teenagers, but still needs her momma at the end of the day. Sydney is excellent at science, loves scary movies, Monster High, animals and has a wicked sense of humor. Sydney is also dyslexic and continues to improve her reading and math skills. Despite taking longer to get her thoughts in writing Sydney can reenact any movie scene from any film she has watched. It is a talent like I have never seen from someone her age, and her ability to identify with the emotions of all the characters she has “studied” makes her seem older than her years. She wants to be a film maker, animal rescuer, and dance teacher.
Gage is 3 1/2 and part angel part devil. I am a little smitten with this boy and try really hard not to let the cuteness of him cloud my judgment. He is a mini me in every sense of the word. Despite knowing all his letters, and all their sounds and be able to count at 15 months, Gage at the age of 2 said only a few words. This never stopped him from getting what he wanted, his problem solving skills for something he REALLY wants is amazing. However, if he doesn’t want to do something (often) he is REALLY good at making that known as well. Now a preschooler, Gage has a language processing disorder and receives speech therapy. He has made a huge amount of progress in a very short time. He is extremely visual and can see patterns and shapes where most people don’t, a walk around the block with him will have you noticing these things you never did before. His current
interest obsession are airplanes, jets and helicopters he is fascinated, and it’s fun to watch him get so excited about them.
My husband Scott, they were not kidding when they say opposites attract. I being health conscious, him smoking cigars, and has a diet where the main food group is OREO’s. I relax by going for a run; he relaxes by cleaning the house. In fact, he is a little OCD about cleaning and on the weekend you will find him cleaning the cars, cooking dinner, doing ALL the laundry and ironing. He is both one of the funniest people, and one of the smartest people I know. He is a resource of useless information and would remind you of Data from Star Trek with a little more color. We have been through it all and at the end of the day we are happiest on the couch together, with a glass of wine—me joking at his expense, all while watching the Blackhawks.
I also have three step adults 23, 22, 20. They are wonderful siblings to their younger brother and sister and I couldn’t be happier.
With both of my children in need of extra services for their learning
disabilities, I have become an advocate for dyslexia awareness. My belief is that people are afraid of what they don’t know, they don’t know what they can’t understand and people understand when they are informed in a way they can identify with. My blog will contain, at times, common struggles but also many achievements that I hope you’ll relate to and celebrate with us. You can find out more about the signs and symptoms of dyslexia here.
The name Forever Fitting In is left to interpretation on purpose. It is a marrying of several ideas: fitting in in terms of weight-loss and clothes, fitting in if you’re different–with a learning difference or otherwise, and motherhood often trying to fit into our new role. I hope you’ll come by often.
Thanks, have a great day!